Disability Documentary About Romance

Disability documentary about romance called “Take A Look At This Heart” explores the romantic lives of people with disabilities.  The film follows director Ben Duffy’s previous disability documentary, “Tin Soldiers.”

One in five people has some form of paralysis according to a study by Christopher and Dana Reeve Foundation.  people with disabilities are very misplaced in the media despite this amount.  Its as if it is taboo to be disabled and intimate. These negative perceptions prevent people with disabilities from embracing their sexuality or as being romantic humans.

Stephen Wampler, a father of two runs Camp Wamp for children with disabilities.  This disabled gentleman was the first disabled person to climb El Capitan in Yosemite.

“I was always saying in the back of my mind, I wonder if I’m ever going to get married”

Elizabeth, his wife, when dating Stephen thought:

All of a sudden, I knew I had to be with him the rest of my life, and I was positive.

Even though 17 of the films subjects are in loving relationships, others struggle in a world that mostly ignores them.

Once dating, Tamara Mena remembers:

“I remember getting lots of compliments from guys, like ‘oh you so beautiful’, but that’s where it ended.  Tamara is a model and motivational speaker who became paralyzed in a motor car accident at the young age of 19.

I think that’s what goes through most peoples minds: she’s in a wheelchair, she can’t have sex.”

Gretchelle Dilan, a disability rights activist in Puerto Rico, became paralyzed after a friend accidentally shot her.  She describes how her relationship with her girlfriend is bigger than her disability:

I am thankful that I am in a relationship, but not because I’m thankful that she can love someone in a wheelchair.  I don’t see that connection there.  I don’t make her feel like she’s loving someone in a wheelchair, I just make her feel like she’s loving someone.

This disability documentary expresses the confidence and unconditional love that its subjects have for themselves and each other, finding out what it means to “feel” on the most important level.